If you read my first post, I touched base on the lack of excitement and genuineness when I hangout with my high school friends vs college friends. I am very close with my high school friends, but it just seems off. I know it is unrealistic to think the dynamic would be the same after going to college, but man….we used to be so close.
I think we are still close, but definitely lost some points. There’s a period in the hangout–usually in the early stages–where we kind of need to warm up again. Almost like a camp fire. It takes a couple minutes before the flames really get going. OMG, that analogy was pretty good cant lie. Anyways, back on track. The obvious explanation for this is due to the lack of time spent together as we are gone for college. With the lack of in person communication and much dialed down social media use, I kind of maybe possibly rarely talked to my high school friends during college. I would think about them, don’t get me wrong. But why is it so hard to just say hi to them. I know why. It is because I always say hi in the group chat and they take like multiple hours to respond. Like cmon man. They know I need a response immediately–1 hour max. I know they are on their phones too…smh. I am obviously joking around and don’t expect a text back that quickly, but talking over the phone is NOT the same as in person communication. Which is why I believe you miss your college friends so much when you get back home for the summer. You are so used to having this social bubble at school that when it gets taken away, you’re kind of like, shit I need to reach out to the high school people. But then the high school people aren’t always free and youre like omg do they not want to see me? then you remember they are busy and have actual lives. It all just comes full circle.
Is this relatable?
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